“You’re Too Hard on Yourself” & other stories of my life

During a recent conversation with a specialist, he uttered these immortal words:

If you haven’t already picked up on it — because I hadn’t — it’s the story of my life.

Each time someone says this to me though, I laugh quietly inside to myself. And I reject it entirely.

Like, hahaha, that’s really funny — because if it were true, maybe everything would have been accomplished by now.

If punishing yourself worked, wouldn’t it have worked by now?

Well — if this isn’t a wake up call.


Academic accomplishments. Striving for promotions (constantly). Volunteering. Fundraising. I do actually have a completed marathon under my belt. Even my yoga practice is notorious for attracting Type As.

I can point to every single achievement and identify the myriad ways I could have done better.

Plus, and here’s the cherry — someone already has achieved all this stuff, and the rest — looking at you Oprah, Beyonce, Kino, Kathrine Switzer — so clearly these goals are not impossible after all.

And with a healthy and realistic appreciation and recognition of what I have accomplished in my lifetime— lest I ever forget.

And opening up to more joy, and more relaxation, in my life.

Founder, feminist, entrepreneur, coffee + self care

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