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Real Self Care is Harder Than It Looks
I’m a big advocate of self-care.
Throughout most of my adult life, I’ve not just not really known how to look after myself well — but I’ve been almost actively self-sabotaging and abusing myself.
So for me, learning how to apply self-care has been life-changing — but I’ve learned a few lessons along the way.
What Self Care Is.
In simple terms, self-care is about actively looking after your self.
It’s about looking after your health, but more subtly, it’s also about looking after your needs, and it can be from any angle imaginable. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, energetically too — even financially.
What Self Care Is Not.
Self-care is not just an indulgence (although that can be nice…. just sayin’).
I don’t even think that self-care is about relaxation — although relaxation is always self-care in my book.
And self-care is not selfish, by the way. Bystanders may judge it so — but it’s really not selfish. It’s empowering — and some find that threatening, particularly when their self-care is notably absent.
Self-care is also not about looking the other way. It’s not about burying our head in the sand, doing…