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How To Ask For Exactly What You Want
*No elderly people were harmed in the writing of this post
**At least I sincerely hope so anyway
I’ve recently written a fair amount on ‘getting what you want.’
Initially, I was extremely resistant to writing these pieces. I was so afraid that it would be misinterpreted for ‘how to get your way.’
When I talk about getting what you want, I’m not talking about getting your own way. I’m not referring to manipulating people, pushing people around, or being — gasp — ‘bossy’ — whether you think that’s a good thing or a bad thing. #banbossy
I’m not bossy. I’m the boss
— Sinead O’Connor
When I’m talking about figuring out what you want, I’m not talking about at the expense of other people. It’s not a suggestion to march out and walk all over others in order to get what you think you deserve.
I’m quite simply talking about starting a conversation with yourself about what might be possible for you in your life — beyond the obvious, the conventional, the safe.
It’s about dreaming bigger than we as adults tend to, and indulging in a little imagination that gets trained out of us in school, or in our…